Wisdom and Choice - completed.
I guess now is a better time than any to begin talking a bit about Wisdom and Choice. If you haven't done so already, I'd recommend reading my topic of Thought first. Otherwise, I may lose any one who is interested in this stuff. If you don't understand your self talk and your emotions, then this step, in my humble opinion, is impossible to complete successfully or to understand it as it should be. So I highly recommend you read the other posting.. Each step took me a while to get to. A lot of thinking and reading. A lot of thought on my thoughts. If you haven't spent much time on yourself, then you're moving too fast. Take the time to learn your body and mind. I wanted to add one thing here.. If on any topic, if I seem to contradict myself and/or I'm not very clear, please ask. It's most likely a misunderstanding as I'm confident in my thoughts. Also, I can't type as fast as I think, so sometimes I'm not very clear and I flow fast. I just roll w/ the fingers and try to edit later. So again, ask me to clarify before jumping to any conclusions.
I decided to start this topic this evening because of an email I received from a friend. Before I get into this though, I wanted to reiterate, what I went over in my posting about thought. If you have a negative emotion, such as hurt, sad, anger, frustration, guilt, depression, greed, ashamed, embarrassed, offended, etc then evaluate your self talk. Listen to what it's saying. Maybe write it down? You have to go through this in order to determine where these words in your head are coming from. Personally, it was from my upbringing, my surroundings, friends, family, etc. I was molded to think <x> in <y> situation. When you keep evaluating this in your head (it could take months, be patient), you will eventually find the triggers to your emotional state and it will be a phrase that you say in your head. Now when you can see the trigger happening, realize what it's doing to your body. When you pay close attention, you will feel the negative emotion flushing your body. I personally felt a warming sensation. At that time, stop whatever you're doing and don't think any more. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and concentrate on your breathing. Clear your mind. Don't stop until you are clear. From my experience, if I couldn't (or didn't) stop the thought, which triggered the emotion, it was a lost cause. I'd have to do something to get out of that emotional state or give it time... then try again next time. Eventually, I was able catch the emotion as it was starting...I'd breath, stop the self talk and turn the self talk into something positive. The negative emotion was no more. Now onto that email:
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The Two Wolves
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all.
One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith"
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?" The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
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This basically is the same thing I was saying above. Thanks to my dear friend for sending this to me.
Now to actually talk about this topic of Wisdom. Wisdom will help you make a better decision. It was kind of funny that I had wisdom slapping me in the face and I didn't even see it. I was actually putting a lot of thought into something, writing it down, talking about it, and so on.. and all along, it was wisdom and I didn't recognize it as such. My girlfriend and I had a common argument. The topic would be different, but outside of the specific topic, it was always the same cycle. I started jotting down the steps of our arguments because we went through the same general scenario every single time. At the time, I didn't realize this was wisdom I was writing down. I actually turned into a fortune teller. As soon as an argument started, I would know every step along the way. I knew the beginning, the middle and the end result. It was the same cycle over and over. Then I thought to myself, if I have this knowledge, then I can change the path via choice. This opened up tons of doors for me. It opened many doors because it wasn't just meaningless arguments w/ my girlfriend that I had wisdom on, it ended up being every negative thought and emotion that ever came into my head. I already knew that if I thought <x> that my emotion would be <y>. After going through specific negative feelings such as hurt, frustration, worry, stress, etc 1000s upon 1000s of times in my life, I knew them inside and out. I had wisdom all along and I wasn't using it. Like the wolf story above. I kept feeding the negative self talk and negative emotions. So guess who was winning the battle? It was habit that formed throughout life. I was taught via society and my surroundings to act this way and I realized I didn't need to. I retrained myself, via wisdom, to think differently, talk differently in my head, and end up feeling differently. If I didn't spend the thime doing this, I knew I would be in the same situation again, one that my soul didn't want to be in. I looked back throughout my life and remembered a lot of the negative situations I went through. They were all repetitive and I experienced them so many times that I knew them like the back of my hand. They were little bumps in the road of life. During the time of going thorugh many situations, I thought they were the worst thing ever. When I looked backwards, they were nothing... just a bump on the road of life. With this knowledge and wisdom, I now realized I had choice versus getting consumed in the moment. I was now consumed with thinking about my thoughts (listening to my self talk), realizing knowledge/wisdom, and then making a better Choice. It's like driving down a 2 track road w/ a rut off to the left side. Some of us are stuck in this rut. All you have to do is give that wheel a good pull to get back onto the smooth road. Your self talk will start the vehicle drifiting towards the rut in the road. If you grab the wheel fast enough, you'll stay on smooth ground with just a slight tug on the wheel. If you don't and you get into the rut, now it's very hard to get out. At least for me it was. Sometimes I couldn't get out at all because I was concentrated on being in the rut, I was consumed by it and I wasn't putting any effort into pulling on the wheel. I found it extremely hard to get out of the rut once I was there unless I did a reset. This "reset" was a key for me. It may sound funny, but it worked well. I pictured my mind like an etch-a-sketch. As soon as my mind (self talk) started drawing this negative picture (the negative words, which I had wisdom to know where I would be in about 5 seconds), I would shake the etch-a-sketch. Sometimes if I couldn't rid myself of the thought, I'd literally give a few short stutter shakes of my head. Just like an etch-a-sketch, heh. As soon as I had a clear view of the cleared etch-a-sketch screen, I would take a deep breath. Then I would think about my thought I just had. Now here's the key: when I'm not emotional and have stopped the negative thinking (out of the rut). I'd change my self talk...and say "What if....<x>" whereas <x> is something positive. For example, my mate says something that's perceived as being not so nice. I can begin to feel offended, sad, hurt, angry, etc. Or, I can stop that thought and think "What if they had a terrible day. I love this person and want good things for them. Don't get consumed on the negative. Take the higher road out of love for this person." I have found that this can be done with almost every situation. I.e. Creating "What if.." scenarios and putting a positive spin on them. "What if that person who just cut me off is a sweet old lady (my grandma).. What if his/her father is in the hospital... WHEW, I'm thankful for not getting into an accident!" It's looking at the other side of the leave, the glass 1/2 full, and so on. I put a positive spin on it and smile. I usually end this with a deep breath, a smile and a "Thank you Lord". The last key here on how I viewed such situations is the assumption, perception and the conclusions we draw. I don't know how many times I started a negative emotion without having a clear understanding of something. Our perception, assumptions and conclusions that we draw are drawn from our own thoughts (I'm speaking of negative assumptions, etc. If we have a positive view on things all of the time, then this discussion wouldn't be needed, haha) Unless we ask questions to clarify, then the meaning is only our ego's meaning, not the speakers. If our ego always feels attacked, then we may have to ask someone, point blank, "Are you being facetious? Are you upset? Was your meaning <x>? Was that a jab you just tossed at me or are you just ribbing me?" When we look around and listen, our egos will hear assumptions all day long. Basically, if we cannot be 100% positive on someone's exact meaning, then we cannot accurately engage this person. Realites get changed with incorrect perceptions, assumptions and drawing up our own meanings. I have had, literally, hundreds of thousands of times in my life that I was wrong in how I viewed a situation (again, wisdom was gained from self evaluation of repetitive cycles). I now ask clarifying questions most of the time, and communications have never been better in my life. It really boils down to listening. There is a huge difference between "listening" and "hearing". A listener's mind is clear and they are taking in information, not processing/creating information with their self talk, which will most likely lead to an emotion, assumption, a new reality, etc. It's like listening to your best friend tell you something. There is an eye contact that is different.. There is engagement in the conversation for clarification. Then there is "hearing". Hearing is not listening. It's hearing the words with self talk going wild, having thoughts of our own experiences, having thoughts of how things have bothered us, our ego is talking, etc. This is when someone hears what we say, but they aren't getting the meaning because their self talk is spinning. They heard something that jogged a memory, that caused self talk, and so on. These are the situations where someone is assuming meanings and changing realities. I'm aware of this but I can't do it all of the time, but I'm close. Once again, it boils down to self talk. If we don't have any self talk going on or assumptions being drawn up, then, we are listening.
If someone is unable to do these things, then keep practicing, it's easy to do once practiced. It literally took me months of reading, evaluating my thoughts, catching the thoughts, changing them, using wisdom, positive thinking, getting rid of the negative, and so on. Eventually, we make a better choice. Choice. This is the next step I've gotten in my mind. This is where a book was recommended to me and I HIGHLY recommend you get it. Choice Theory by William Glassar (thank you Dave and my Lord for getting this book into my life). Please get this book if you can. If not, google it and do some reading so you can get a grasp on this information. At any rate...if you're the type of person that says "He/She made me feel this way..", then that is only blaming. No one "makes" us feel any way. They do not have switches and remote controls to make us feel any way. The lack of making good choices for ourselves is what makes us feel bad. When we aren't jumping to conclusions/assumptions, and we realize when someone else has failed in their thinking, then we can look at it from an intellectual standpoint and not an emotional standpoint. We can say, "They are failing right now, I don't have to be affected by their negativity. They are in a rut." If we allow people to pull us into their rut, then obviously both parties are pretty much screwed. With all of this wisdom, if we get sucked into it, we pretty much just made a poor choice. As the saying goes: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference. We can NOT change someone. I guarantee it. Only via their own choice can they change something. And if we try to get them to change their choices, we'll only get negative feedback in return because they feel attacked. So, I'll say it again, we can NOT change someone. "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change". All we can do is love and try to help w/ knowledge. It's ultimately their situation that they decide to change, not ours. All we can change is ourselves, our thoughts, our actions, etc. "courage to change the things I can" and "the wisdom to know the difference". The way I looked at Choice was simple. That "good guy" and "bad guy" situation on our shoulders. Pretty much like that email above pertaining to the wolves. Basically, we have these 2 sides of every situation. Deep down inside, we have thoughts on many situations. What is right and what is wrong. Left shoulder/right shoulder. In the middle, we have our minds making the choice. If we cannot realize BOTH sides and look at them both with a clear mind, it is impossible to make an intellectual Choice. If a clear mind isn't possible, we will make a choice based on our current emotion/self-talk (which means we're still stuck on the lower levels of self talk, emotion, etc). This is very important. Let me reiterate as I like to do, heh: If we cannot sit back w/ a clear mind (this means zero emotion) and use our intellect to evaulate the 2 choices, then we cannot make a correct Choice. We have to go back and evaluate the self talk, emotional state, the triggers, etc. There is something we are not resolving and we cannot go any further until we find the triggers, evaluate, and make a better Choice. Remember, non-emotional state of mind. We have to be able to use Wisdom and Knowledge to evaluate the 2 choices, with a very clear mind. Sorry to beat a dead horse here. It's very important. Once we are able to just be...without anything running through our minds, then we can take a situation and look at it from a 3rd party standpoint. Look at the positive and negative that are sitting on our shoulders. Then we can allow our minds to evaulate. Through Wisdom and Knowledge, which one of these Choices will bring me bad things in life and which one will bring me good things in life. Earlier in my growth, I had to keep "resetting" my etch-a-sketch. I don't think we'll ever be perfect, unless we are Chirst-like (which is my goal). My thoughts had to constantly be put into check. It was hard work and I'm very thankful. I would think about the thought > make a better choice. After many months of doing this, I now do not have to concentrate on my thoughts as much. I've retrained my inner child and showed him what is righteous. I now don't get stressed. I will feel the stress coming... I see the forethoughts forming, and I pray. I don't let it consume my body. I don't give the thoughts any substance as if I did, I would be consumed by it. My reality is what I think. I am what I think. It's a very peaceful state of mind when this is realized. I want everyone to experience this! It's beautiful. For instance, I feel the air now and it feels good. I say "What a beautiful day eh?" and someone says "Ugh, it's cold and rainy". Well, it's all perception. I like the brisk cold air entering my lungs and the feel of it on my skin. It energizes me. The rain smells great! I love feeling the water hit me. Basically, I learned what my soul likes versus what my mind was molded to think. Sociey/Surroundings trained my mind, "It's a gloomy day outside." My soul says "What a great day to be alive! Listen to that wind and the birds! That air feels awesome. Mmmmmm, I love the smell of rain."
(One shoulder says it's gloomy outside, the other shoulder says it's a beautiful day. Choice comes in. Which choice to I make?).
See, it really all boils down to back-tracking in our minds in order to learn. Analyzing each step our mind goes through and why it goes through it. I spent a lot of time at each level. I tore each section apart, learned it inside and out, found out what's wrong with it, corrected it, then moved on to the next step. For example, on one situation within me, the end result was frustration (and this ended up being the fix all for all situations within me.. this model). So I started with the end result and worked backwards while analyzing every step. I did this until I understood it on an intellectual/analytical level (non-emotional), and I then resolved it. So back-tracking for me went like this: The end result, let's say, was an emotion of Frustration < The frustration was triggered within my body from self talk and I was consumed by it < Society, surroundings and upbringing molded the type of self talk that one has and which Choices we make < I had Wisdom and Knowledge of this repetitive path in life < While utilizing this Wisdom and Knowledge, I realized I had free-will/choice and could change the outcome. See? When we are stuck in the self talk/emotional state, we cannot possibly move on until we take a deep breath, realize where we are in our thoughts, realize the Wisdom/Knowledge, and realize we have a choice. We get out of a bad frame of mind by realizing where our thoughts are at any given moment and making a better choice for ourselves. There are 2 sides to everything. Yin/Yang. Positive/Negative. Good/Bad. They are both within us as 1. Our Free-will/Choice decides what state we will be in. If we are on a bad path in life, all we have to do is use our wisdom and make a better choice. Remember, we put ourselves wherever we may currently be, via our own choices. No one "makes" our Choices for us, we have Free-Will. Well, God could get involved if he deems appropriate, but that's a blessing in my book.
Back-tracking further in my mind, I have found other keys that open doors to the soul, our being, gut feeling, intuition, etc.. whatever you'd like to call it. I call it my Soul. Moving further, I will be speaking mainly about God, Jesus Christ, my Soul, the Holy Spirit and so on. If someone reading doesn't share these same beliefs, then all I ask is that you view it from your standpoint of how you'd like to view it. Your intuition, your being, your gut feeling, the forces of the Universe, etc.
God Bless
I decided to start this topic this evening because of an email I received from a friend. Before I get into this though, I wanted to reiterate, what I went over in my posting about thought. If you have a negative emotion, such as hurt, sad, anger, frustration, guilt, depression, greed, ashamed, embarrassed, offended, etc then evaluate your self talk. Listen to what it's saying. Maybe write it down? You have to go through this in order to determine where these words in your head are coming from. Personally, it was from my upbringing, my surroundings, friends, family, etc. I was molded to think <x> in <y> situation. When you keep evaluating this in your head (it could take months, be patient), you will eventually find the triggers to your emotional state and it will be a phrase that you say in your head. Now when you can see the trigger happening, realize what it's doing to your body. When you pay close attention, you will feel the negative emotion flushing your body. I personally felt a warming sensation. At that time, stop whatever you're doing and don't think any more. Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths and concentrate on your breathing. Clear your mind. Don't stop until you are clear. From my experience, if I couldn't (or didn't) stop the thought, which triggered the emotion, it was a lost cause. I'd have to do something to get out of that emotional state or give it time... then try again next time. Eventually, I was able catch the emotion as it was starting...I'd breath, stop the self talk and turn the self talk into something positive. The negative emotion was no more. Now onto that email:
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The Two Wolves
One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, "My son, the battle is between two "wolves" inside us all.
One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith"
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: "Which wolf wins?" The old Cherokee simply replied, "The one you feed."
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This basically is the same thing I was saying above. Thanks to my dear friend for sending this to me.
Now to actually talk about this topic of Wisdom. Wisdom will help you make a better decision. It was kind of funny that I had wisdom slapping me in the face and I didn't even see it. I was actually putting a lot of thought into something, writing it down, talking about it, and so on.. and all along, it was wisdom and I didn't recognize it as such. My girlfriend and I had a common argument. The topic would be different, but outside of the specific topic, it was always the same cycle. I started jotting down the steps of our arguments because we went through the same general scenario every single time. At the time, I didn't realize this was wisdom I was writing down. I actually turned into a fortune teller. As soon as an argument started, I would know every step along the way. I knew the beginning, the middle and the end result. It was the same cycle over and over. Then I thought to myself, if I have this knowledge, then I can change the path via choice. This opened up tons of doors for me. It opened many doors because it wasn't just meaningless arguments w/ my girlfriend that I had wisdom on, it ended up being every negative thought and emotion that ever came into my head. I already knew that if I thought <x> that my emotion would be <y>. After going through specific negative feelings such as hurt, frustration, worry, stress, etc 1000s upon 1000s of times in my life, I knew them inside and out. I had wisdom all along and I wasn't using it. Like the wolf story above. I kept feeding the negative self talk and negative emotions. So guess who was winning the battle? It was habit that formed throughout life. I was taught via society and my surroundings to act this way and I realized I didn't need to. I retrained myself, via wisdom, to think differently, talk differently in my head, and end up feeling differently. If I didn't spend the thime doing this, I knew I would be in the same situation again, one that my soul didn't want to be in. I looked back throughout my life and remembered a lot of the negative situations I went through. They were all repetitive and I experienced them so many times that I knew them like the back of my hand. They were little bumps in the road of life. During the time of going thorugh many situations, I thought they were the worst thing ever. When I looked backwards, they were nothing... just a bump on the road of life. With this knowledge and wisdom, I now realized I had choice versus getting consumed in the moment. I was now consumed with thinking about my thoughts (listening to my self talk), realizing knowledge/wisdom, and then making a better Choice. It's like driving down a 2 track road w/ a rut off to the left side. Some of us are stuck in this rut. All you have to do is give that wheel a good pull to get back onto the smooth road. Your self talk will start the vehicle drifiting towards the rut in the road. If you grab the wheel fast enough, you'll stay on smooth ground with just a slight tug on the wheel. If you don't and you get into the rut, now it's very hard to get out. At least for me it was. Sometimes I couldn't get out at all because I was concentrated on being in the rut, I was consumed by it and I wasn't putting any effort into pulling on the wheel. I found it extremely hard to get out of the rut once I was there unless I did a reset. This "reset" was a key for me. It may sound funny, but it worked well. I pictured my mind like an etch-a-sketch. As soon as my mind (self talk) started drawing this negative picture (the negative words, which I had wisdom to know where I would be in about 5 seconds), I would shake the etch-a-sketch. Sometimes if I couldn't rid myself of the thought, I'd literally give a few short stutter shakes of my head. Just like an etch-a-sketch, heh. As soon as I had a clear view of the cleared etch-a-sketch screen, I would take a deep breath. Then I would think about my thought I just had. Now here's the key: when I'm not emotional and have stopped the negative thinking (out of the rut). I'd change my self talk...and say "What if....<x>" whereas <x> is something positive. For example, my mate says something that's perceived as being not so nice. I can begin to feel offended, sad, hurt, angry, etc. Or, I can stop that thought and think "What if they had a terrible day. I love this person and want good things for them. Don't get consumed on the negative. Take the higher road out of love for this person." I have found that this can be done with almost every situation. I.e. Creating "What if.." scenarios and putting a positive spin on them. "What if that person who just cut me off is a sweet old lady (my grandma).. What if his/her father is in the hospital... WHEW, I'm thankful for not getting into an accident!" It's looking at the other side of the leave, the glass 1/2 full, and so on. I put a positive spin on it and smile. I usually end this with a deep breath, a smile and a "Thank you Lord". The last key here on how I viewed such situations is the assumption, perception and the conclusions we draw. I don't know how many times I started a negative emotion without having a clear understanding of something. Our perception, assumptions and conclusions that we draw are drawn from our own thoughts (I'm speaking of negative assumptions, etc. If we have a positive view on things all of the time, then this discussion wouldn't be needed, haha) Unless we ask questions to clarify, then the meaning is only our ego's meaning, not the speakers. If our ego always feels attacked, then we may have to ask someone, point blank, "Are you being facetious? Are you upset? Was your meaning <x>? Was that a jab you just tossed at me or are you just ribbing me?" When we look around and listen, our egos will hear assumptions all day long. Basically, if we cannot be 100% positive on someone's exact meaning, then we cannot accurately engage this person. Realites get changed with incorrect perceptions, assumptions and drawing up our own meanings. I have had, literally, hundreds of thousands of times in my life that I was wrong in how I viewed a situation (again, wisdom was gained from self evaluation of repetitive cycles). I now ask clarifying questions most of the time, and communications have never been better in my life. It really boils down to listening. There is a huge difference between "listening" and "hearing". A listener's mind is clear and they are taking in information, not processing/creating information with their self talk, which will most likely lead to an emotion, assumption, a new reality, etc. It's like listening to your best friend tell you something. There is an eye contact that is different.. There is engagement in the conversation for clarification. Then there is "hearing". Hearing is not listening. It's hearing the words with self talk going wild, having thoughts of our own experiences, having thoughts of how things have bothered us, our ego is talking, etc. This is when someone hears what we say, but they aren't getting the meaning because their self talk is spinning. They heard something that jogged a memory, that caused self talk, and so on. These are the situations where someone is assuming meanings and changing realities. I'm aware of this but I can't do it all of the time, but I'm close. Once again, it boils down to self talk. If we don't have any self talk going on or assumptions being drawn up, then, we are listening.
If someone is unable to do these things, then keep practicing, it's easy to do once practiced. It literally took me months of reading, evaluating my thoughts, catching the thoughts, changing them, using wisdom, positive thinking, getting rid of the negative, and so on. Eventually, we make a better choice. Choice. This is the next step I've gotten in my mind. This is where a book was recommended to me and I HIGHLY recommend you get it. Choice Theory by William Glassar (thank you Dave and my Lord for getting this book into my life). Please get this book if you can. If not, google it and do some reading so you can get a grasp on this information. At any rate...if you're the type of person that says "He/She made me feel this way..", then that is only blaming. No one "makes" us feel any way. They do not have switches and remote controls to make us feel any way. The lack of making good choices for ourselves is what makes us feel bad. When we aren't jumping to conclusions/assumptions, and we realize when someone else has failed in their thinking, then we can look at it from an intellectual standpoint and not an emotional standpoint. We can say, "They are failing right now, I don't have to be affected by their negativity. They are in a rut." If we allow people to pull us into their rut, then obviously both parties are pretty much screwed. With all of this wisdom, if we get sucked into it, we pretty much just made a poor choice. As the saying goes: God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference. We can NOT change someone. I guarantee it. Only via their own choice can they change something. And if we try to get them to change their choices, we'll only get negative feedback in return because they feel attacked. So, I'll say it again, we can NOT change someone. "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change". All we can do is love and try to help w/ knowledge. It's ultimately their situation that they decide to change, not ours. All we can change is ourselves, our thoughts, our actions, etc. "courage to change the things I can" and "the wisdom to know the difference". The way I looked at Choice was simple. That "good guy" and "bad guy" situation on our shoulders. Pretty much like that email above pertaining to the wolves. Basically, we have these 2 sides of every situation. Deep down inside, we have thoughts on many situations. What is right and what is wrong. Left shoulder/right shoulder. In the middle, we have our minds making the choice. If we cannot realize BOTH sides and look at them both with a clear mind, it is impossible to make an intellectual Choice. If a clear mind isn't possible, we will make a choice based on our current emotion/self-talk (which means we're still stuck on the lower levels of self talk, emotion, etc). This is very important. Let me reiterate as I like to do, heh: If we cannot sit back w/ a clear mind (this means zero emotion) and use our intellect to evaulate the 2 choices, then we cannot make a correct Choice. We have to go back and evaluate the self talk, emotional state, the triggers, etc. There is something we are not resolving and we cannot go any further until we find the triggers, evaluate, and make a better Choice. Remember, non-emotional state of mind. We have to be able to use Wisdom and Knowledge to evaluate the 2 choices, with a very clear mind. Sorry to beat a dead horse here. It's very important. Once we are able to just be...without anything running through our minds, then we can take a situation and look at it from a 3rd party standpoint. Look at the positive and negative that are sitting on our shoulders. Then we can allow our minds to evaulate. Through Wisdom and Knowledge, which one of these Choices will bring me bad things in life and which one will bring me good things in life. Earlier in my growth, I had to keep "resetting" my etch-a-sketch. I don't think we'll ever be perfect, unless we are Chirst-like (which is my goal). My thoughts had to constantly be put into check. It was hard work and I'm very thankful. I would think about the thought > make a better choice. After many months of doing this, I now do not have to concentrate on my thoughts as much. I've retrained my inner child and showed him what is righteous. I now don't get stressed. I will feel the stress coming... I see the forethoughts forming, and I pray. I don't let it consume my body. I don't give the thoughts any substance as if I did, I would be consumed by it. My reality is what I think. I am what I think. It's a very peaceful state of mind when this is realized. I want everyone to experience this! It's beautiful. For instance, I feel the air now and it feels good. I say "What a beautiful day eh?" and someone says "Ugh, it's cold and rainy". Well, it's all perception. I like the brisk cold air entering my lungs and the feel of it on my skin. It energizes me. The rain smells great! I love feeling the water hit me. Basically, I learned what my soul likes versus what my mind was molded to think. Sociey/Surroundings trained my mind, "It's a gloomy day outside." My soul says "What a great day to be alive! Listen to that wind and the birds! That air feels awesome. Mmmmmm, I love the smell of rain."
(One shoulder says it's gloomy outside, the other shoulder says it's a beautiful day. Choice comes in. Which choice to I make?). See, it really all boils down to back-tracking in our minds in order to learn. Analyzing each step our mind goes through and why it goes through it. I spent a lot of time at each level. I tore each section apart, learned it inside and out, found out what's wrong with it, corrected it, then moved on to the next step. For example, on one situation within me, the end result was frustration (and this ended up being the fix all for all situations within me.. this model). So I started with the end result and worked backwards while analyzing every step. I did this until I understood it on an intellectual/analytical level (non-emotional), and I then resolved it. So back-tracking for me went like this: The end result, let's say, was an emotion of Frustration < The frustration was triggered within my body from self talk and I was consumed by it < Society, surroundings and upbringing molded the type of self talk that one has and which Choices we make < I had Wisdom and Knowledge of this repetitive path in life < While utilizing this Wisdom and Knowledge, I realized I had free-will/choice and could change the outcome. See? When we are stuck in the self talk/emotional state, we cannot possibly move on until we take a deep breath, realize where we are in our thoughts, realize the Wisdom/Knowledge, and realize we have a choice. We get out of a bad frame of mind by realizing where our thoughts are at any given moment and making a better choice for ourselves. There are 2 sides to everything. Yin/Yang. Positive/Negative. Good/Bad. They are both within us as 1. Our Free-will/Choice decides what state we will be in. If we are on a bad path in life, all we have to do is use our wisdom and make a better choice. Remember, we put ourselves wherever we may currently be, via our own choices. No one "makes" our Choices for us, we have Free-Will. Well, God could get involved if he deems appropriate, but that's a blessing in my book.
Back-tracking further in my mind, I have found other keys that open doors to the soul, our being, gut feeling, intuition, etc.. whatever you'd like to call it. I call it my Soul. Moving further, I will be speaking mainly about God, Jesus Christ, my Soul, the Holy Spirit and so on. If someone reading doesn't share these same beliefs, then all I ask is that you view it from your standpoint of how you'd like to view it. Your intuition, your being, your gut feeling, the forces of the Universe, etc.
God Bless
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